Just to clarified, my boyfriend hasn't cheated on me. But I have friends who have been cheated on, and this is what I've noticed from second hand experience.
Women are so dramatic, more often than men. When a woman cheats, men aren't like that. They don't make sure everyone in the world knows how hurt they are. They don't post on facebook this "inspirational quotes" and images for people who've been cheated on. Yes, they might think that woman is an ungrateful bitch, but they move on sooner. Women not so much, they tend to hold a grudge for so much longer.
seems familiar? |
I will tell you the story of an acquaintance. She had a kid with her boyfriend, and they lived together for a little while. I think the baby was only a couple months old, and they broke up because he cheated. Her kid is almost 3 years old, and to this date she holds an immense grudge against all men, not just her ex. She never misses the opportunity to remind everyone that all men are the same, "they are liars and cheaters and cannot be trusted."
Really? and what about guys? |
There is another girl who I know who I share mutual friends with. Boyfriend cheated on her and she cannot stop with the slut shaming. Not cool.
spot on mrs norbury |
But the real sluts are these unfaithful men. They already have a girl, and still go after another girl. But girls you've been cheated on never blame the guy. You know that "slut" never put a gun on your man's head and forced him to cheat on you with her.
I often wonder, why do people cheat? My guess is that they are not satisfied with their current relationship, and try to compensate for that. A quick google search told me I'm not too wrong, supposedly these are some reasons why people cheat.
1. Lack of sexual satisfaction in your primary relationship.
2. Desire for additional sexual encounters.
3. Lack of emotional satisfaction in your primary relationship.
4. Wanting emotional validation from someone else.
5. Falling out of love with your partner.
6. Falling in love with someone new.
7. Your wanting to seek revenge.
8. You’re curious and want new experiences.
Which in my humble opinion most of these reasons are around sex and could be prevented/fixed with a little communication with your significant other.
So before cheating, creating an irreparable mess, breaking someone's heart and giving yourself a bad reputation. Talk to your significant other, communication is always the solution, isnt it?
Xo
Monica